Fandango’s Provocative Question this week asks
When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?
Hmmm… Suffice to say I’m someone who is uncomfortable with confrontation in all forms, regardless of relationship. I have a lifetime of experience of not rocking any boats, not playing devils advocate just for the sheer hell of it, not unnecessarily sticking my head above any precariously positioned parapets, just keeping-my-mouth-shut people-pleasing at all costs – basically no jumping in unless I’m pushed beyond reason.
To be completely honest I’m even feeling uncomfortable with the thought of writing what I really want to say in this post because I feel like I should be really careful with what I share to be sure that no-one who reads my blog takes issue with my personal opinion to the point of commenting adversely… But then maybe that’s the whole point of posing a provocative question in the first place? Oops! π
Why would anybody comment adversely? This seems a perfectly reasonable opinion.
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That’s because I gave a very carefully edited anodyne reply, not the one my heart screamed out to write… π
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I tend to be peacekeeper when possible and to put a lid on any adverse response, but sometimes that builds up a resentment that is hard to overcome.
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Ha ha ha – Especially where certain occupants of the White House are concerned… And I’m definitely with you on that one! π
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I generally avoid encouraging controversy on my blog posts. I prefer to attempt to entertain. I’m OK with discussing controversial topics with people whom I respect, but not the general public on social media.
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On the whole I try to do the same, but sometimes I fail spectacularly! π
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You have every right to express yourself freely, itβs your site β€οΈ
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Old habits die hard… π
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I am the most laid back person I know, but I’ve surprised myself lately because my inner calm seems to have diminished and if I feel even slightly wronged or criticised by someone I immediately go for the jugular and take no prisoners! It’s like being a kid again and defending yourself in the school playground!
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I think this has been a tough year for all of us, one way or another, so it’s probably not surprising we’re all feeling a bit frayed around the edges by now… π
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We are indeed, Ruth. At least we have hope now with the roll out of the vaccine from next week, though I suspect it will take many months or more before everyone is protected and we can relax again. I am looking forward to summer. π
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Hopefully by summer restrictions everywhere can be less as the vaccinations roll out across the world… fingers crossed! π
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I hope so, it will be good to feel safe again, and have family visit freely without all of us being worried that that one of us could carry and give the virus to another.
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